Healing From Betrayal
Rebuilding trust when everything feels broken.
This Is Not Being Crazy
You’re just trying to survive something you never thought would happen. Infidelity, lies, secrecy… whatever form betrayal has taken in your relationship, it’s left a mark. Maybe more than one. And maybe this isn’t the first time. Maybe there have been manic episodes or periods of addiction involved. Maybe you’ve said or heard things you can’t forget. Maybe you’re trying to forgive someone who seems totally disconnected. Or maybe you’re the one who messed up, and you’re drowning in guilt.
For a lot of couples who come to see me, this is their last shot. You’re either going to find a way back to each other… or start planning your exit.
If you’re wondering how to heal from betrayal in marriage, how to even begin to put the pieces back together, let’s slow it down and figure out what you really want, and what rebuilding could actually look like.
Why Healing From Betrayal Inside Of Your Relationship Hurts So Much
What happened hurts, but what it meant to you may hurt even more.
When betrayal enters a relationship whether it’s an affair, financial secrecy, addiction relapse, or emotional withdrawal, it shakes the entire foundation. Your nervous system stops trusting. Your body stops relaxing. You begin living in fear instead of connection.
Sometimes the betrayal is tied to something bigger like untreated bipolar disorder, substance use, childhood trauma, or years of silent resentment.
As painful as it is, healing from betrayal in marriage is possible. My job isn’t to pick sides. My job is to help both of you understand what happened, why it happened, and what needs to change in order to feel safe again.
How I Help Couples Rebuild After The Hurt Is Out In The Open
I use a highly specialized model called PACT – the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy. It’s grounded in attachment theory, neuroscience, and regulation. (Translation: we look at how your nervous system responds to conflict, what makes you shut down or lash out, and how to create safety in the relationship again.)
I offer couples therapy both in person at my office in Prosper, TX and virtually across the state of Texas. Whether you’re in the Dallas-Fort Worth area or logging in from anywhere else in Texas, this work is available to you.
My goal is to help you:
- Understand each other’s attachment styles and needs
- Learn how to attune and really tune in to your partner
- Create agreements you both actually want to keep
- Rebuild trust with honesty, not pressure or shame
- Stop living in “parallel lives” and start showing up for each other again
If you’re asking yourself how to heal from betrayal, know this: I’ve worked with couples where the betrayal showed up in the wake of mania, in the midst of addiction, or during seasons of deep disconnection. I know how to help you talk through what happened without shutting each other down, and without pretending it didn’t matter.
Recovering & Healing From Betrayal Is Hard. But It’s Not Hopeless.
If you're ready to
- Stop avoiding the conversations that need to happen. I’ll help you say the hard things and actually hear each other again, without spiraling into blame or retreat.
- Understand your own role in the cycle (without self-blame). We’ll untangle your patterns and help you understand why you respond the way you do, so you can choose differently.
- Rebuild or release this relationship with integrity. Whether you're staying or separating, I’ll support you in doing it with honesty, courage, and care.
- Protect your kids from toxic resentment and anger. Even if the relationship ends, the family system doesn’t. I’ll help you move forward in a way that shields your children from unnecessary harm.
- Make decisions you can live with. You don’t want to look back and wish you’d tried harder or left sooner. Let’s figure out what feels right for you.
- Learn how to heal from betrayal and reconnect with your partner. If there’s still love, there’s something to work with. I’ll show you what rebuilding can look like in real life, not just in theory.
I’d be honored to help you.
You Can’t Change The Past. But You Can Change What Happens Next
Healing from betrayal is not about pretending the pain and trauma didn’t happen. It’s about finding a new way forward (together or apart) with honesty, integrity, and support.
If you’re still in it, still hoping, still hurting, let’s talk.
Couples Therapy - Healing From Betrayal FAQs
What if my partner doesn’t want to come?
How much does couples therapy cost?
I charge $400 for couples therapy.
I’m a private-pay therapist and do not accept insurance. However, I’m happy to provide a monthly superbill for clients who wish to seek reimbursement through out-of-network benefits.
Sessions are 100 minutes, and longer sessions may be scheduled depending on your needs.
Do you work with LGBTQ+ couples? Poly couples?
Do you take insurance?
Do you require sobriety?
Can we do telehealth as a couple? Do we need to be in the same room?
For telehealth, yes you both need to be in the same room. Ideally in separate chairs, with good lighting and clear audio. If you’re in-person, you’ll be in comfortable chairs, not on a couch.
This work is active. I’ll ask you to pay more attention to each other than to me during our sessions and I want you to attune to one another. I’ll teach you how that’s done whether we’re meeting in person or virtually.
What should we know before starting?
You won’t feel better after every session. This work is like going to the gym: sometimes it’s hard and sometimes you leave sore, but over time, it builds strength.
I want you to come in with a sense of what you want your relationship to become and a willingness to work for it. Then, it takes time to work through challenges, re-align thinking and set your relationship in the direction you want to go in. Just know this isn’t magic in the sense that you walk in and everything changes. It took time to get to this place, and it will take some time to learn how to heal from betrayal.
