I’m passionate about couples therapy. Let me tell you why.
I grew up in a family with a lot of conflict. What I didn’t know then was that my mom was an alcoholic and this caused my mom and dad to fight daily.
I remember thinking all marriages must be like this. My mom achieved sobriety and started working on recovery when I was about 16. A few years later, my brother was diagnosed with a brain tumor and died at 19 years old. I was 21.
I became a therapist to help people overcome addictions. But the more I learned, the more I realized how uncommon my parents' marriage was.
From what I was learning, the alcoholism should have split them up. Then, their marriage shouldn’t have survived my mom reaching recovery. And everyone knows marriages fall apart when a child dies.
I wanted to know what was so special about my parents’ relationship. How could they remain married and be happier than they'd ever been? What were they doing that so many other people were not?
I asked my parents, but they didn’t have any insights for me. I talked to friend about it and they were as baffled as I was.
I began studying couples. I went to every training I could find, studied lots of books and worked with many, many couples. I began to see the patterns in what people did and didn’t do that helped them have better relationships.
This led me to an innovative modality called PACT therapy that focuses on how real couple form a strong, lasting bond by using neuroscience, attachment theory and emotion regulation. I have interrogated PACT training into my work, learning the most helpful techniques to aid my clients in creating the relationships and marriages they envision.
Now, I know how my parents did it and how I can help you do it too.
Couples struggle with all kinds of things in their relationship. I have tools I can teach you that will make your relationship more fulfilling and satisfying.
I’ll help you find the answers to what is getting in your way and help you get the life you want. There’s always hope.