Julia Wesley, MS, LMFT-S
my Story
I’m passionate about helping people create the relationship thay want.
I grew up in a family with a lot of conflict. What I didn’t know then was that my mom was an alcoholic and this caused my mom and dad to fight daily.
I remember thinking all marriages must be like this. My mom achieved sobriety and started working on recovery when I was about 16. A few years later, my brother was diagnosed with a brain tumor and died at 19 years old. I was 21.
I became a therapist to help people overcome addictions. But the more I learned, the more I realized how uncommon my parents’ marriage was.
From what I was learning, the alcoholism should have split them up. Then, their marriage shouldn’t have survived my mom reaching recovery. And everyone knows marriages fall apart when a child dies.
I wanted to know what was so special about my parents’ relationship. How could they remain married and be happier than they’d ever been? What were they doing that so many other people were not?
I asked my parents, but they didn’t have any insights for me. I talked to friend about it and they were as baffled as I was.
I began studying couples. I went to every training I could find, studied lots of books and worked with many, many couples. I began to see the patterns in what people did and didn’t do that helped them have better relationships.
This led me to an innovative modality called PACT therapy that focuses on how real couple form a strong, lasting bond by using neuroscience, attachment theory and emotion regulation. I have interrogated PACT training into my work, learning the most helpful techniques to aid my clients in creating the relationships and marriages they envision.
Now, I know how my parents did it and how I can help you do it too.
Couples struggle with all kinds of things in their relationship. I have tools I can teach you that will make your relationship more fulfilling and satisfying.
I’ll help you find the answers to what is getting in your way and help you get the life you want. There’s always a way.
My Approach
I use a blend of therapies, models and interventions tailored to meet your unique needs. My primary approaches include:
PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy):
Understanding the intricate dynamics of attachment and arousal regulation, PACT allows me to help you develop deeper empathy, improve communication, and foster a secure and thriving partnership.
Sex Therapy:
I provide a safe, non-judgmental space to address intimacy issues, enhance sexual connection and resolve any sexual concerns that may be impacting your relationship.
Cognitive Processing Therapy (CPT):
Specializing in trauma therapy, I use CPT to help you process and overcome past traumatic events, facilitating healing and strengthening emotional bonds.
Brainspotting:
A powerful method to identify and release emotional pain and trauma, Brainspotting allows for profound healing and a deeper understanding of yourself, your partner and your relationship.
My Philosophy
I believe that every relationship has the potential for growth and renewal. My goal is to help couples uncover the underlying issues affecting your relationship and provide you with the tools and insights needed to create a more fulfilling connection. I approach each session with empathy, respect and a commitment to supporting your journey toward a healthier, happier relationship.
Continuing Education
To ensure that I provide the best possible care, I am committed to continuous learning and professional development. I regularly attend workshops, seminars, and training sessions to stay up-to-date with the latest advancements in couples therapy and related fields.
Personal Interests
When I’m not working with couples, I enjoy working with animals especially dogs , which help me stay balanced and energized. I believe that maintaining my own well-being allows me to be fully present and effective in my work with clients.
find peace in your relationship with your partner
Whether you’re facing specific challenges or simply looking to deepen your connection, I’m here to help. I invite you to reach out and take the first step towards a stronger, more harmonious relationship.